My grandpa Miller lost his left arm in a farming accident.  The earliest memories I have of him are of a man with one arm.  He was quite industrious with that one arm.  He would carry a vise grip in his pocket, clip it to the bottom of one side of his jacket and then use the weight of that tool to hold it down as he zipped it up.
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One day he was helping build an addition on my uncles barn when a neighbor stopped over.  The neighbor wasn’t as tactful as he probably should have been and asked how grandpa could be nailing up boards with only one hand.   Grandpa said, “I put the nails between my teeth and hit the back of my head with the hammer.”  Of course he had a way of using his right hand to get the nails started while holding the hammer at the same time and then driving the nails in just like anyone else would.
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Today I have a friend who has only one leg.  We have little boys who have a lot of questions.  The other day one of our little boys innocently pointed at him and asked what happened to his leg.  I was not sure how to respond and did not want to embarrass my friend, nor did I want to reprimand a child for an innocent question so I simply told him to ask my friend.
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My friend really likes kids and I was so happy to see that he showed no signs at all of being offended.  He just smiled as he answered the question.  Throughout life we can all find things to be offended over even though people meant no offense by what they said.  Still we should all be careful in what we say so that we don’t offend with our words.  James chapter 3 warns about the careless use of the tongue. 
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What should our attitude be, however, when someone else says something to us without thinking- something that hurts our feelings.  First of all, there are times that people are rude on purpose, but I believe that most of the time, people meant no harm by what they said.  Often their statements are just as innocent as the question of a curious child.
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The scriptures actually tell us how to deal with such situations.  Ephesians 4:2 says, “With all lowliness and meekness, with longsuffering, forbearing one another in love.”   That word “forbearing” means “putting up with.”  If we really love each other, we will patiently (longsuffering) put up with each other even when we hurt each others feelings.  The more we love, the more we put the other person first and the less focused we are on ourselves.  If we care so much about others that we love them enough to die for them, then we will not be so focused on our own hurt feelings but instead we will see that they really did not mean to hurt us.  “Hereby perceive we the love of God, because he laid down his life for us: and we ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.” (I John 3:16)
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Galatians 5:14-15 says, “For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this; Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.  But if ye bite and devour one another, take heed that ye be not consumed one of another.”  Instead of getting angry and fighting with each other over something that was not even meant to be rude, we should take the advice of 1 Peter 4:8, “And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins.”  That word “charity” in Greek, is also translated “love.” 
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1 John 4:11 tells us, “Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.”  God does love us.  “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” (John 3:16)